Posts Tagged ‘Discipline’

“I don’t have the DISCIPLINE.”

According to a mini survey that I did last year, this was the TOP 3rd reason why people, in spite of knowing that being active and choosing to eat nutritious food is beneficial to them, do not do so.

In our day and age where information about health and fitness flourish, and personal trainers, fitness coaches, and gyms abound everywhere, obesity and non-communicable diseases still abound.

I’m sure that if I go to a room with 100 people and ask them if it is important to stay physically active and choose nutritious foods, at least 99 of them would say ‘Yes, it is!’
But people still don’t exercise regularly and over-eat more junk, and one reason they would claim is that they are not disciplined.

 

Frankly, I think it’s just a ‘dead-end’ excuse that people say to escape responsibility and taking action.

I say ‘dead-end’ because when people say…

“I don’t have the discipline to exercise.”
“I am not disciplined in my eating.”
“I can’t discipline myself to reduce stress and sleep more.”
“I’m not disciplined to stop smoking/drinking excessively.”
..etc.,

…I don’t think they expect – or want – to be disciplined at that very moment.

We don’t wake up one morning and suddenly become very disciplined.
But there are steps to take to develop self discipline every single day.

So the question to ask yourself is not,
“Am I disciplined to eat right/move more/take care of my health, etc.”

Because it’s not about whether you are disciplined or not.

>>> The better question to ask is,

“Am I willing to take consistent small steps to develop self-discipline so that I can reach my goal?”

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Here are the THREE (3) Secrets to Become Disciplined and Stay Fit:

1.) Clarity.
Be clear about what you want to achieve, and why you want to achieve it. Sure, you might say “I want to lose X amount of pounds” or maybe “I want to gain some muscle and look good with and without my shirt on” but this is not clear enough.

Be specific on what you want to achieve and why. And write it down on a piece of paper or your journal.

People don’t have the discipline to be fit and healthy because they don’t really know what they want. Ask yourself, “What will happen after I lose weight?” or “What are the things that I can do if I gain more muscle/get stronger?”

The answers to questions like these is what matters more than the actual #gains from exercising and eating right.

2.) Direction.
No one ever woke up one day and magically became disciplined. It takes consistent time and effort towards the right direction. Think of it as climbing  the stairs. You want to get on top, but you have to take one step at a time. Otherwise you’ll risk tripping, falling, or not get there at all.

Each single small step is what matters. But you have to determine the SPECIFIC path you should take to get there.

Discipline is about making these small decisions and actions a habit.

3.) Resilience.
Change will never be easy. You will face adversity. There will be challenging and tough times. What matters is not how you don’t face obstacles at all, but how you get past through them!

So expect adversity. Not everything will go as planned. But remember that getting back up EVERY TIME you fall is what develops the discipline.

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Be clear about your purpose.

Establish individual steps that you will take one at a time.

And expect adversity and realize that everything won’t go your way, but what matters is how you overcome each obstacle and continue.

 

I know that YOU already know that you need to stay active and eat nutritious foods 80% of the time so that you can live life to the full for yourself and for your loved ones.

I also know that YOU already know enough about exercising everyday and watching your diet.

So as a Coach, I’m here not to bombard you with more information about what to eat, or exercise videos, or whatnot.
But I’m here to guide you and coach you through these three secrets to get disciplined, so that you can crush your #fitnessjourney and be your finest self.

I don’t just give my clients workout programs to follow. That’s the easy part. It’s easy to do, and it’s easy to miss.

What I do is I provide CLARITY in purpose, direction, and motivation to be resilient. Because with clarity comes power.

If you’re someone who have tried so many things to improve your health and fitness, but nothing seems to work. Or you think you just need someone to guide you by the hand to finally develop the discipline, simply answer the short form below and we’ll see how we can team up so that you can develop the discipline to achieve your goals and more:

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5 Now Adonijah, whose mother was Haggith, put himself forward and said, “I will be king.” So he got chariots and horses[a] ready, with fifty men to run ahead of him. 6 (His father had never rebuked him by asking, “Why do you behave as you do?” He was also very handsome and was born next after Absalom.)
– 1 Kings 1:5-6 (NLT)

Adonijah claiming the throne.

Adonijah claiming the throne.

David is known to be the “Man after God’s own heart” in the Bible. He had led Israel through many successful battles. Even before becoming King, he was passionate about God and his glory (1 Samuel 17:26, 45-47) and his courage and leadership instantly made him the people’s favourite (1 Samuel 18:7).

However, his leadership did not translate automatically to his family. He neglected disciplining Adonijah who assumed Kingship when his father was old, even if he was not a firstborn. And as the passage says, David failed to rebuke his son even by asking “Why are you doing that?” (NIV) which led to Adonijah being disrespectful and not recognize his boundaries as long as he gets what he wants.

Old King David with Nathan the Prophet.

Old King David with Nathan the Prophet.

Godly leaders ought not to neglect his or her own family. Paul instructed Timothy about leadership and family, saying:
He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full[a] respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)
– 1 Timothy 3:4,5 (NIV)

Character takes a lifetime to develop. We may think that we have to be more lenient and forgiving to children – and Filipinos even have this principle ‘pagbigyan mo na, bata lang yan‘ – but setting the boundaries with our children early on will help them learn about self-control.

Indeed, David’s son who succeeded him as King was right when he said:

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6

***images are from The Brick Testament